A MAN WHO IS UNABLE TO LOOK AFTER HIMSELF IS UNABLE TO LOOK AFTER A WOMAN.
This is fairly simple, gentlemen. You need to care for yourself, first. This is much the same as loving yourself before loving another.
Personal hygiene! Please! As a female, I can tell you that we love smelling you. This may sound weird, but it is not. Each and every one of you has a very distinct smell. If your woman is attracted to you, I can guarantee that she is attracted to your scent, as well. So, clean yourself! Even if you do not wash your hair every single day, at least wash your body. Please! Let your lady smell your good scent.
Go to the dentist. You may have great teeth, but you still need the dentist. Having gone through braces back in middle school, my teeth are near perfect. I brush them twice a day and floss. Still, when I go to the dentist, they end up scrapping plaque off the edges of my teeth. This may sound disgusting, but we all go through it. Deal. If you hate the dentist, you are not the only one! I loathe it! However, it is a necessary evil.
Get a haircut and shave! I am all for sexy floppy hair, but usually, sexy floppy hair is a product of a professional stylist's hand. Just go freaking cut your hair! Now, some of you prefer not to shave. You have your own style. I completely understand, as long as you keep it tidy. I love stubble and short facial hair. I really do. But even stubble and short facial hair need tending to.
Bottom line, please, please, please, keep yourself clean!
Monday, January 6, 2014
Rule #230
WHEN GOING OUT, DO NOT ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO. TAKE CHARGE AND DECIDE.
One thing that us women dread is when a man lets us decide where to go on a date. I realize that it may stress you out some, but, for most women, as long as they are with you, they are happy. Just take charge. If you want to take her to a clown show, then take her to a clown show!
One thing that us women dread is when a man lets us decide where to go on a date. I realize that it may stress you out some, but, for most women, as long as they are with you, they are happy. Just take charge. If you want to take her to a clown show, then take her to a clown show!
Rule #32
A GIRL'S DREAM IS TO OWN SOMETHING THAT BELONGS TO YOU. WHEN SHE HAS THAT, SHE FEELS EXTRA CLOSE TO YOU.
This "something" could be as simple as an old sweatshirt. Sure, it is not shiny or new, but it is yours, and in turn, it is hers. It is the novelty of the idea. This whole idea may sound a bit cheesy, but it will put a smile on her face. A large portion of guys tend to overlook the idea of simplicity where their ladies are concerned. The fact is, a true lady will absolutely love it if you give her your old sweatshirt or a t-shirt that you love. Keep it simple, gentlemen.
This "something" could be as simple as an old sweatshirt. Sure, it is not shiny or new, but it is yours, and in turn, it is hers. It is the novelty of the idea. This whole idea may sound a bit cheesy, but it will put a smile on her face. A large portion of guys tend to overlook the idea of simplicity where their ladies are concerned. The fact is, a true lady will absolutely love it if you give her your old sweatshirt or a t-shirt that you love. Keep it simple, gentlemen.
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Rule #29
GOOD GRAMMAR IS SEXY!
This is no way that I could possibly stress this any more. Being the grammar nazi that I am, good grammar is a MUST! If you cannot differentiate between "your" and "you're", I'm sorry, but we are parting ways.
Freshman year of high school, I was paired with a group of skater boys for a project. Of course, I ended up doing all the work. Well, that is, until I put my foot down and began delegating tasks.
One of the boys, who I could tell had developed a slight crush on me, was writing on our poster regarding various plants. Abruptly, he stopped writing and looked up at me in complete confusion. I asked him what he needed help with. Can you guessed what he was confused about? He was confused about how to spell a word. Now, this was not some Latin word that we often see in studies of science. This was a word that is taught during elementary school.
"Function". That was the word. He had no clue how to spell function. My jaw dropped open and I just stared at him. Luckily, our teacher stepped in and explained how to spell function. Now, I realize that every now and again, we forget how to spell words, or we simply do not know. However, the book was laying open right in front of him with the heading, written in big bold letters, spelling "Function".
After class, he came up to me and asked if I would go out on a date with him. Now, this was when I was going through my ice princess phase and so I was not the nicest. I looked at him with an emotionless face and said, "I don't date guys who can't spell function." And I turned and walked away.
Grammar is so ridiculously important! I cannot stress this enough! Not only will it help you to succeed, but it is also quite an attractive trait to possess.
This is no way that I could possibly stress this any more. Being the grammar nazi that I am, good grammar is a MUST! If you cannot differentiate between "your" and "you're", I'm sorry, but we are parting ways.
Freshman year of high school, I was paired with a group of skater boys for a project. Of course, I ended up doing all the work. Well, that is, until I put my foot down and began delegating tasks.
One of the boys, who I could tell had developed a slight crush on me, was writing on our poster regarding various plants. Abruptly, he stopped writing and looked up at me in complete confusion. I asked him what he needed help with. Can you guessed what he was confused about? He was confused about how to spell a word. Now, this was not some Latin word that we often see in studies of science. This was a word that is taught during elementary school.
"Function". That was the word. He had no clue how to spell function. My jaw dropped open and I just stared at him. Luckily, our teacher stepped in and explained how to spell function. Now, I realize that every now and again, we forget how to spell words, or we simply do not know. However, the book was laying open right in front of him with the heading, written in big bold letters, spelling "Function".
After class, he came up to me and asked if I would go out on a date with him. Now, this was when I was going through my ice princess phase and so I was not the nicest. I looked at him with an emotionless face and said, "I don't date guys who can't spell function." And I turned and walked away.
Grammar is so ridiculously important! I cannot stress this enough! Not only will it help you to succeed, but it is also quite an attractive trait to possess.
Rule #336
SHOW HER OFF IN FRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
There are few things that can make a girl feel more cherished than showing her off. Now, I am not talking about treating her like a trophy or shiny new object. I am simply saying that bringing her with you when you go to hang out with your buddies, will make her feel pretty damn special.
Not only does it show that you truly care about her, but it also shows that you a proud of her. You are proud to have her at your side.
You see, it truly is the little things that us women feel in our hearts.
Cherish her. Show her off to your friends.
There are few things that can make a girl feel more cherished than showing her off. Now, I am not talking about treating her like a trophy or shiny new object. I am simply saying that bringing her with you when you go to hang out with your buddies, will make her feel pretty damn special.
Not only does it show that you truly care about her, but it also shows that you a proud of her. You are proud to have her at your side.
You see, it truly is the little things that us women feel in our hearts.
Cherish her. Show her off to your friends.
Rule #225
SHE WILL LOVE THAT "CUTE SMIRK". PROMISE.
I, myself, love a good smirk. It is quite sexy. Though, there is no such thing as a "cute" smirk. Smirks are used for one purpose, and one purpose only... intentions. Of course, there is not a certain type of intention that a smirk pertains to. A smirk is quite universal. Use it.
I, myself, love a good smirk. It is quite sexy. Though, there is no such thing as a "cute" smirk. Smirks are used for one purpose, and one purpose only... intentions. Of course, there is not a certain type of intention that a smirk pertains to. A smirk is quite universal. Use it.
Rule #216
ALWAYS HOLD THE DOOR FOR A LADY, NOT BECAUSE SHE IS A LADY, BUT BECAUSE YOU ARE A GENTLEMAN.
There is not much for me to interpret here. Though, after contemplating this rule, I have concluded that I, myself, may, in fact, be a gentleman. I hold doors for people all of the time, not just ladies.
Fun fact: Back in medieval times, holding the door for someone was a promise that you would not kill them. Of course, extreme measures such as this are not taken anymore, but holding the door for someone now holds a much different meaning.
There is not much for me to interpret here. Though, after contemplating this rule, I have concluded that I, myself, may, in fact, be a gentleman. I hold doors for people all of the time, not just ladies.
Fun fact: Back in medieval times, holding the door for someone was a promise that you would not kill them. Of course, extreme measures such as this are not taken anymore, but holding the door for someone now holds a much different meaning.
Rule #118
NICE GUYS FINISH LAST BECAUSE THEY PUT THEIR LADIES FIRST.
This could not be more true. Just because you are losing a certain girl to a less than stellar man, does not mean that you are not amazing.
My mum has always told me to date a nerd. She has always said, "Date the nerd. He never got the girl, so you can be certain that he will treat you like a queen, and do everything in his power to keep you, and keep you happy."
To some, this may sound rude, as though dating the nerd in such a capacity is just using them. However, that is simply not the case. The same thing goes for nice guys. They know how to treat a lady. That is the type of guy who comes out on top in the end, though the road may be a bit bumpier.
Be nice. Make it the new norm to be nice to women, instead of the rudeness and cockiness that we experience in this day and age.
This could not be more true. Just because you are losing a certain girl to a less than stellar man, does not mean that you are not amazing.
My mum has always told me to date a nerd. She has always said, "Date the nerd. He never got the girl, so you can be certain that he will treat you like a queen, and do everything in his power to keep you, and keep you happy."
To some, this may sound rude, as though dating the nerd in such a capacity is just using them. However, that is simply not the case. The same thing goes for nice guys. They know how to treat a lady. That is the type of guy who comes out on top in the end, though the road may be a bit bumpier.
Be nice. Make it the new norm to be nice to women, instead of the rudeness and cockiness that we experience in this day and age.
Rule #111
DO NOT... UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE... TAKE A PICTURE WITH YOUR MIDDLE FINGER UP.
Can I just say that, if this is you, there is still time to bring you back from the ledge! You are not too far gone, yet!
Middle fingers are simply not classy. If you must flip someone off, just do it in your mind. No one cares to see you actually carry out the action of sticking up your middle finger, whether it be in a picture or throughout your daily life.
No middle finger! Express you feelings like a grown man!
Can I just say that, if this is you, there is still time to bring you back from the ledge! You are not too far gone, yet!
Middle fingers are simply not classy. If you must flip someone off, just do it in your mind. No one cares to see you actually carry out the action of sticking up your middle finger, whether it be in a picture or throughout your daily life.
No middle finger! Express you feelings like a grown man!
Rule #208
DRESS SHARPLY, BUT SIMPLY. PATRONIZE A FINE ESTABLISHMENT. SPEAK CONFIDENTLY.
Uno, nothing catches a woman's eye more than when a man can dress. I am here to tell you that it is a very sexy, yet very hard trait to come by in a man.
Sweats and baggy jeans are not everything! If you are wearing your jeans below you waistline, you have a few facts to get straight, mister. In case you were curious, wearing your pants low started in jail. It told the other male inmates that you are open to sex. I am just saying.
Think before you dress! I love it when guys know how to dress. If you can dress, you can be sure that I am coming over to talk to you. And this is not just me speaking. I have talked to multiple other humans of the female variety and they feel the exact same way. If you do not know exactly how to dress to impress, hit up Pinterest. Yes, it may be populated by mostly females, but it does not emasculate you to check the website out. There is a section for men's dress. Check it out. There are some great ideas there for all styles of clothing.
Lastly, make sure to patronize a fine establishment and speak confidently. It stands out, and in a good way.
Uno, nothing catches a woman's eye more than when a man can dress. I am here to tell you that it is a very sexy, yet very hard trait to come by in a man.
Sweats and baggy jeans are not everything! If you are wearing your jeans below you waistline, you have a few facts to get straight, mister. In case you were curious, wearing your pants low started in jail. It told the other male inmates that you are open to sex. I am just saying.
Think before you dress! I love it when guys know how to dress. If you can dress, you can be sure that I am coming over to talk to you. And this is not just me speaking. I have talked to multiple other humans of the female variety and they feel the exact same way. If you do not know exactly how to dress to impress, hit up Pinterest. Yes, it may be populated by mostly females, but it does not emasculate you to check the website out. There is a section for men's dress. Check it out. There are some great ideas there for all styles of clothing.
Lastly, make sure to patronize a fine establishment and speak confidently. It stands out, and in a good way.
Rule #110
SHE ALREADY HAS A FATHER, AND DOES NOT NEED A SECOND ONE. DO NOT TRY TO CONTROL HER.
Now, some women like to be controlled. That is simply their mind set. However, you will find that the majority of women do not want to be controlled.
I am going to use myself as an example, again. You will find that I do that often, not because I am into myself or gloating, but simply because I know who I am. I cannot always speak for other women, but I can speak for myself.
That being said, I hate being controlled. Since I was young, I would act like an adult, because I wanted to be treated as such. I was sick and tired of all the belittling that I received from authority figures. This most likely is the main reason for my authority issues. Anyway, the only time I like a man to control me is when he is thinking about my safety. Other than that, I make my own decisions. I am a big girl.
I assume the majority of women share the same belief as I do, though I cannot speak for them. Men, you would not like it if we dictated what you do, who you can be with, and where you can go. So, do not do it to us. Tit for tat, but in a more positive atmosphere.
Do not try to control us. If there is one thing that you will learn while reading through my blog postings, is that women are wild creatures. And, not to quote Miley Cyrus here, but we cannot be tamed. And that is a fact.
Now, some women like to be controlled. That is simply their mind set. However, you will find that the majority of women do not want to be controlled.
I am going to use myself as an example, again. You will find that I do that often, not because I am into myself or gloating, but simply because I know who I am. I cannot always speak for other women, but I can speak for myself.
That being said, I hate being controlled. Since I was young, I would act like an adult, because I wanted to be treated as such. I was sick and tired of all the belittling that I received from authority figures. This most likely is the main reason for my authority issues. Anyway, the only time I like a man to control me is when he is thinking about my safety. Other than that, I make my own decisions. I am a big girl.
I assume the majority of women share the same belief as I do, though I cannot speak for them. Men, you would not like it if we dictated what you do, who you can be with, and where you can go. So, do not do it to us. Tit for tat, but in a more positive atmosphere.
Do not try to control us. If there is one thing that you will learn while reading through my blog postings, is that women are wild creatures. And, not to quote Miley Cyrus here, but we cannot be tamed. And that is a fact.
Rule #206
DO NOT FIGHT WITH OTHER MEN OVER A WOMAN. REGARDLESS OF HOW AMAZING YOU THINK SHE IS, SHE IS NOT A TROPHY, AN ASSET, OR A PIECE OF TERRITORY. LET HER WORK OUT WHO SHE WANTS TO BE WITH ON HER OWN. SHE IS HUMAN. SHE CAN DO THAT.
One thing that just grinds my gears is when humans of the male variety fight over a woman. Back in high school, this was a concept that I knew well. I am a nerd, excluding my sarcastic and witty personality. I love geeky facts, I love learning, and I love hanging out with geeky guys because they can keep up with me on an intellectual level.
This created a bit of a problem while I was going through schooling. I did not realize how they felt about me, simply because I did not have the same feelings for them. I saw them as friends, and nothing more. Seeing them as friends caused me to overlook the fact that they may feel something more. This started a war amongst them.
Now, I know numerous women who would be flattered by men fighting over them. However, that is not a woman, and she is most definitely not worth having. She will not treat you well. I can guarantee you that.
It is not attractive when men fight over women. In fact, it is a complete turn-off. It may be hard to just walk away, or take a step back to give her some space, but it is necessary when you enter a pissing contest. The only way to win is to be the better man. The right woman will see that you are the better choice. You just have to do the hard thing and step away for a bit.
One thing that just grinds my gears is when humans of the male variety fight over a woman. Back in high school, this was a concept that I knew well. I am a nerd, excluding my sarcastic and witty personality. I love geeky facts, I love learning, and I love hanging out with geeky guys because they can keep up with me on an intellectual level.
This created a bit of a problem while I was going through schooling. I did not realize how they felt about me, simply because I did not have the same feelings for them. I saw them as friends, and nothing more. Seeing them as friends caused me to overlook the fact that they may feel something more. This started a war amongst them.
Now, I know numerous women who would be flattered by men fighting over them. However, that is not a woman, and she is most definitely not worth having. She will not treat you well. I can guarantee you that.
It is not attractive when men fight over women. In fact, it is a complete turn-off. It may be hard to just walk away, or take a step back to give her some space, but it is necessary when you enter a pissing contest. The only way to win is to be the better man. The right woman will see that you are the better choice. You just have to do the hard thing and step away for a bit.
Rule #301
A GENTLEMAN ALWAYS HAS TIME FOR HIS GIRLFRIEND. IF HE DOES NOT HAVE TIME, HE MAKES TIME. NO EXCUSES.
You need to invest time in your girl. It is as simple as that. My best friend is always doing her damnedest to make time for her man. He agrees to the plans and then breaks them to go and hang out with his friends. It breaks my heart to see her dealing with this. At the same time, she should have put her foot down a long long time ago.
Just the other night, she texted me in rage. Finally, she was spending time with her man, but all he did was sit down in the basement with his brother and his brother's friends and play video games. She then went on to complain that this was usually how their quality time went. He would play video games and completely ignore her, excluding the occasional small smile or shy kiss. After trying to get her to realize that she deserves better, she finally pulled him aside, later that night, and discussed with him the issue that she is having with his behavior in their relationship. He explained himself (a lame excuse in my book, but this is her relationship), and they spent the night sitting around a campfire on the ice.
You see, gentlemen, you need to either find time or make time for your lady. Most women will not just sit there and deal with it like my best friend did. Her and her boyfriend are engaged. Their level of commitment and unconditional love is most likely a bit different from yours.
Just make time for her, and she will make time for you.
You need to invest time in your girl. It is as simple as that. My best friend is always doing her damnedest to make time for her man. He agrees to the plans and then breaks them to go and hang out with his friends. It breaks my heart to see her dealing with this. At the same time, she should have put her foot down a long long time ago.
Just the other night, she texted me in rage. Finally, she was spending time with her man, but all he did was sit down in the basement with his brother and his brother's friends and play video games. She then went on to complain that this was usually how their quality time went. He would play video games and completely ignore her, excluding the occasional small smile or shy kiss. After trying to get her to realize that she deserves better, she finally pulled him aside, later that night, and discussed with him the issue that she is having with his behavior in their relationship. He explained himself (a lame excuse in my book, but this is her relationship), and they spent the night sitting around a campfire on the ice.
You see, gentlemen, you need to either find time or make time for your lady. Most women will not just sit there and deal with it like my best friend did. Her and her boyfriend are engaged. Their level of commitment and unconditional love is most likely a bit different from yours.
Just make time for her, and she will make time for you.
Rule #101
YOU BETTER TREAT HER LIKE YOUR QUEEN IF YOU WANT HER TO TREAT YOU LIKE A KING.
Forgive me for going all elementary on you here, but this rule is a complex reference to the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule being "Treat Others How You Want To Be Treated". Of course, this rule was introduced to us while our ages were still in the single digits. Now, you are in double digits, and you are most likely dating. That being said, if you want respect from her, then you need to respect her. It's not a hard concept, but it's an integral concept, if you want any hope of a solid and happy relationship. Just treat her like a queen, and everyone will be a happy camper.
Forgive me for going all elementary on you here, but this rule is a complex reference to the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule being "Treat Others How You Want To Be Treated". Of course, this rule was introduced to us while our ages were still in the single digits. Now, you are in double digits, and you are most likely dating. That being said, if you want respect from her, then you need to respect her. It's not a hard concept, but it's an integral concept, if you want any hope of a solid and happy relationship. Just treat her like a queen, and everyone will be a happy camper.
A Gentleman's Rulebook
My name is Bailey. I'm a female, in case you have not figured that out for yourself, yet. I started this blog because I am fed up with the male population. And men, don't get your panties in a twist, it's not all of you that get under my skin. However, sadly enough, the art of being a gentleman has died.
Men, I have heard time and time again from you and your fellow co-males that you simply do not understand women. Well, I hope to educate you some on the mechanics of the female mind.
This is A Gentleman's Rulebook. My hope is to enlighten the male population on the rules of being a gentleman.
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